One week till we know

One week from today we'll find out what sex the baby is. It's pretty exciting and I was reminded by our friend Tim of something I've been doing lately. Most women go through a nesting period, trying to make the house ready for the baby, well us men do it as well. Tim got a better car for his expanded family, me? I've been sanding down a crib, getting the loose ends around the house ready, cleaning up the yard, basically catching up on all the crap I've needed to do since we started renting the house. Katy's started showing to others besides me. So much is going on right now and we're almost halfway through the pregnancy. Craziness, craziness. We'll try and post some pictures soon.

Katy's Adventures with Snails

I have been putting it off long enough, Rob told you guys that I was going to write so here it goes. For those of you who don't know I am working part time as a nanny/teacher for a five year old girl-Alexis and her four year old sister-Anna. Alexis loves to collect bugs and she is not very good at letting them go after she is done with them. So, on Wednesday Alexis was at an appointment with her mom and I was watching Anna in their backyard. Anna was riding her bike and after about 5 min she got off and asked me if I wanted to see the snail house that Alexis made. She then showed me a house that was formed out of bricks (yes, like the little pig) 4 bricks for the walls and 1 on top. She then takes the brick off the top and shows me about 4 snails that Alexis caught and put in the "house." At that time we hear a car pull up and knowing that her sister has very little patience Anna scrambles to put the top back on the house so Alexis won't get mad at her. I am busy looking inside to see if Alexis has come in the front door when I hear CRUNCH! I have to bite my lip from laughing out loud and I hear another CRUNCH! I then turn around (unable to control my laughter) to see all 4 snails squashed by the roof of the snail house. As Anna was trying to force the roof back on as quick as she could, it slipped twice, squashing anything in its path. Knowing that I am about to have a very upset five year old on my hands, I quickly put the roof back on the top of the house and got Anna back inside before Alexis even knew that there was anything wrong.

This was the highlight of my day. It may seem a little sadistic, but when you are with two little girls all day, one of whom says the catch phrase "I know" to everything you try and tell/ask her to do, tiny mistakes can turn the most hectic of days around. More tales from nannying to come!

1 heart and 3 weeks

Yesterday we had another doctor's visit and got to hear baby Grindy's heartbeat again. I recorded it with my digital recorder I use for work, but the doc was talking the whole time so it's pretty muffled. The other big news, 3 weeks from today we'll be finding out what the sex of the baby is. Yeah, we're finding out and here's why. We want there to be a surprise when the baby is born, but we figure that surprise will be the baby itself. For the next one, if we're so fortunate, we'll probably wait to find out until it comes, that'll be our surprise. Anyway, Katy has a great story about snails from her nannying job. Hopefully she'll blog it soon, but as you can tell, she's hesitant. Stay tuned for "Katy's Adventures with Snails!"

Finding a Church Home

The search for a church home can be a frustrating one. You aren't familiar with the people. The pastor's preaching style is different. You don't know the music or songs. All in all, very uncomfortable at times. Add to that a church purpose balancing the preaching of the gospel every week without watering down the truth. Its not something we've been looking forward to or are enjoying since we've been failing so far. Those that read this blog, especially those from ASGF, need to know how lucky you are to have a church home. We went through this when we left Adventure and it sucked! We thought we had one for a while, but we found ourselves making excuses and conveniently missing church to go to Fresno to visit Katy's family. Then we found ASGF. The first time we went we knew, this was it. We'd found a home. That feeling of familiarity when there isn't any, the immediate connection you make with the congregation, the inner peace of just knowing, this is where God wants us. Its hard to find, but so sweet when you do.

That being said, we noticed on ASGF's website that Easter service will be held at the Gold Country Fairgrounds again this year and we were reminiscing about how awesome it was last year and how we wish Easter was the following weekend when we'd be in town. Nonetheless, we won't be there and our quest for a church will continue this weekend. But please, all you ASGFers, link pictures on your blogs, email stories to us, let us know how it goes because we know it'll be a sweet time of fellowship that we will dearly miss, as we do all of you. On that note, we'll be trying Pine Grove Baptist Church in Orcutt this weekend, but if anyone knows of another solid church in the Santa Ynez Valley area, please let us know!

Love to you all, and Happy Easter!
Rob and Katy

a fresh perspective on abortion

This will be our first post written together with insight from both Grindy's of Buellton.

We just read this letter by Sherif Girgis from a post in Joshua Harris' blog. He's "a Rhodes Scholar and a senior studying philosophy major at Princeton." It was first posted in the National Review Online. Mr. Obama is a brilliant orator. Scary good. And yet he has one flaw that in our eyes in undeniable in a candidate for president. Part of the the problem is that we're looking at politics in a whole new light what with a baby on the way. It adds a whole new dimension to our choice for a political seat and political choices. Not only are we casting votes on how we'll be affected, but we're casting votes now on how our children's lives will be affected. This young man from Princeton is astounding. What insight from such youth and inexperience. Read on and we'll comment.

Dear Senator Obama: As an immigrant from Kenya, your father found new hope in America's noble principles and vast opportunities. The same promise brought my parents here from Egypt when I was still too young to thank them. Now you have inspired my generation with your vision of a country united around the same ideals of liberty and justice, "filled with hope and possibility for all Americans." But do you mean it? As a legislator, you have opposed every effort to protect unborn human life. Shockingly, you even opposed a bill to protect the lives of babies who, having survived an attempted abortion, are born alive. Despite your party's broad support for legal abortion and its public funding, most Democrats (including Senator Clinton) did not oppose the Born-Alive Infants Protection Act. You, however, opposed it. Your vision of America seems to eliminate "hope and possibility" for a whole class of Americans: the youngest and most vulnerable. You would deny them the most basic protection of justice, the most elementary equality of opportunity: the right to be born. As a prerequisite for any other right, the right to life is the great civil-rights issue of our time. It is what slavery and segregation were to generations past. Our response to this issue is the measure of our fidelity to a defining American principle: "that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life." You have asked me to vote for you. In turn, may I ask you three simple questions? They are straightforward questions of fact about abortion. They are at the heart of the debate. In fairness, I believe that you owe the people you would lead a good-faith answer to each: 1. The heart whose beating is stilled in every abortion -- is it a human heart? 2. The tiny limbs torn by the abortionist's scalpel -- are they human limbs? 3. The blood that flows from the fetus's veins -- is it human blood? If the stopped heart is a human heart, if the torn limbs are human limbs, if the spilled blood is human blood, can there be any denying that what is killed in an abortion is a human being? In your vision for America, the license to kill that human being is a right. You have worked to protect that "right" at every turn. But can there be a right to deny some human beings life or the equal protection of the law? Of course, some do deny that every human being has a right to life. They say that size or degree of development or dependence can make a difference. But the same was once said of color. Some say that abortion is a "necessary evil." But the same was once said of slavery. Some say that prohibiting abortion would only harm women by driving it underground. But to assume so is truly to play the politics of fear. A compassionate society would never accept these false alternatives. A compassionate society would protect both mother and child, coming to the aid of women in need rather than calling violence against their children the answer to their problems. Can we become a society that does not sacrifice some people to help others? Or is that hope too audacious? You have said that abortion is necessary to protect women's equality. But surely we can do better. Surely we can build an America where the equality of some is not purchased with the blood of others. Or would that mean too much change from politics as usual? Can we provide every member of the human family equal protection under the law? Your record as a legislator gives a resounding answer: No, we can't. That is the answer the Confederacy gave the Union, the answer segregationists gave young children, the answer a complacent bus driver once gave a defiant Rosa Parks. But a different answer brought your father from Kenya so many years ago; a different answer brought my family from Egypt some years later. Now is your chance, Senator Obama, to make good on the spontaneous slogan of your campaign, to adopt the more American and more humane answer to the question of whether we can secure liberty and justice for all: Yes, we can.

The fact of the matter is, our president makes decisions on how lives are affected every day, from Iraq to New Orleans. And yet, with all of those decisions life is taken into account. The way that Senator Obama presents it, an unborn's life is of no value. Being future parents we caught a glimpse of this a few weeks back. When you're sitting in a doctor's office, holding your spouse's hand, and looking at a video of the inside of a uterus, you can't deny the life that exists in that womb. When you see the tiny heartbeat going at least 4 times faster than your own at the moment, you can't deny the existence of a human. When you see it move for the first time, see it forming distinct legs and arms, can actually see it's heart transparent through its body and you know that there is a being living inside of a uterus, you can't deny that there is a person there. What is now apparent more than ever is that abortion should be one of the most important deal breakers in whether you choose a candidate or not. It's not about denying a woman's right to choose, it's about whether you are legalizing the murder of a tiny infant. How can that not be the most important issue for this and future generations. Yeah, we stopped the war. Yeah, we fixed the economy. But will we do it while allowing the death of millions of tiny Americans. John Piper is cited over on Joshua Harris' same post, and concludes with a better summary than we could right. Please pray for our leaders. Pray for Americans who will vote. Pray for Obama's heart if he is elected as president. That God will be honored and his statutes upheld. Here is Piper's take:

there are numerous single issues that disqualify a person from public office. For example . . . a person who said that no black people could hold office-on that single issue alone he would be unfit for office. Or a person who said that rape is only a misdemeanor-that single issue would end his political career. These examples could go on and on. Everybody knows a single issue that for them would disqualify a candidate for office. . . . I believe that the endorsement of the right to kill unborn children disqualifies a person from any position of public office. It's simply the same as saying that the endorsement of racism, fraud, or bribery would disqualify him-except that child-killing is more serious than those.

what not to say to a woman

I've been waiting a couple of days to post this story. Waiting to see if it would still be as funny...and it is. Brian Regan has a sketch on his CD where he talks about putting your foot in your mouth. Part of that sketch goes like this:

brian - (to a lady) "Hey when's that BAY-BEE due?"
lady - "What baby?"
brian - "At the zoo! The pandas! I knew they were trying to have one. Thought we'd talk about the fluffly zoo animals. I hear they got 'em over there. You can look at 'em. Touch 'em if you want."

Hopefully you know where I'm going with this. Katy and I visited this maternity store last Wednesday in San Luis Obispo where I had radar training. We walk in and this lady greets us by saying, "Hi folks! When are you due?" Kind of a strange question, but a little understandable since Katy and I are still a young couple and we did just walk into a maternity store. Well we walked around for a while and finally went to checkout with a t-shirt we found. I'm standing at the counter not 18 inches from this same lady and I noticed she had a low cut shirt on that greatly enhanced what looked to be a perfectly round pregnant belly. The lady looked older, mid-late forties maybe, so I thought she might be pregnant. However, that Brian Regan sketch came to mind and I thought, "No way am I going to ask her." So then my dear sweet pregnant wife pipes up and the following conversation ensues:

katy - "so when are you due?"
lady - "I'm not due. I'm fat!"
katy - "NOHOHOHOHOH!" (sound like a horse neighing)
lady - "Yeah, I'm 60. I have no more eggs. I'd like another but I can't."
katy - "NOHOHOHOHOH!" (again, a sound like a horse neighing)
rob - "So is the receipt in the bag? We have your card. We'll come by again if we're in town!"

Holy moley. I couldn't believe she asked the question. Good times.

Katy's Thoughts

So, I know that you have not heard too much from me about this whole pregnancy thing but I do think it's awesome and I am so excited. God is good isn't He? we could not have planned this more perfectly (that must be because God is perfect and He knows how everything is going to work out). That being said I was talking to Rob and I asked him what he thought I should write on the blog and he said "my thoughts on pregnancy" so here it goes. If you would have asked me a few weeks ago how I liked being pregnant (I am sorry to say) I think that I would have said "I don't think it's for me." However, I am happy to say that I am coming around. The nausea has slowed down and I am in awe that there is a person growing in my tummy. So, besides the constant need to visit the restroom, to pee, I do like being pregnant and I ALMOST come to tears when I think about this blessing.
Katy
P.S. for those of you who might be interested to know I am about halfway through my 10th week and not really showing to the public yet but I have noticed a change.

First Full Pre-Natal Exam

Well on Thursday we got the go ahead in a sense. Everything looked good. Only one baby. Saw some little nubs of arms and legs and a coned tail. Due date of around September 24th. Ummm...amazing. Simply amazing. The baby even moved! Talk about feeling close to the Lord. Anyway, I hope to write more later but I have to get to work and Katy wanted this posted ASAP and that was two days ago. Sorry for the fuzzy picture. I'll work on getting a better one up soon. Thanks for all your prayers, love, and support.

safe and ultrasound

Well, this past Friday Katy had her first ultrasound and everything looks great! That's the baby in between those two tiny pluses inside the black triangular looking thing which is Katy's uterus I guess. We didn't get to hear a heart beat, but did get to see it. Well, kind of. It was a little white blob inside a white blob going black and white, black and white, super fast. I know. What a way to describe your first baby. A white blob. Quite amazing to witness such a miracle of God in life growing inside Katy and to know that his perfect timing reigned supreme in this entire process. Oh and for those who are wondering, no tears from me, just welled up. Ok, maybe one snuck out, but it's pretty hard to cry when another man is at the receiving end of your wife and there's nothing between him and her but a thin paper sheet. AWKWARD!!!!!

GUESS WHAT???

First of all, this post is being written a few weeks before the world knows that we are pregnant! So let me tell you how it went down. Katy and I have been trying to have a baby going on a little over two years. We didn't have a decent insurance plan to cover any kind of infertility until I started working for the state. Once that started happening, Katy was able to go on Clomid (spell?) two months ago to jump start her ovulation. Well, this past month she had to get a more potent dose of it because she still didn't ovulate in December. And then, last night I came home and she was standing in the door of the garage with two sticks in her hand. She said, "I know you had a tough day but it's about to get better." And she showed me the pregnancy sticks. For those who don't know, there are different types of pregnancy tests. These just happened to show 2 lines if pregnant, one if not. Well, initially I started crying and saying, "This better not be a joke. Don't joke around with me," hugging as the tears fell. After close inspection of the sticks, one line was faint, the other quite pronounced. Now let me back track a little bit. When we first started trying we used ovulation sticks exactly like these, the two lines positive, one line negative. Well, they would always show up with a faint second line that led us to believe that she was ovulating when in fact she was not. So my immediate reaction was she might not be pregnant. Obviously to spare myself from the pain of another month of not being pregnant. We both decided that she should call the doctor in the morning and go get a blood test. Now for the grand finale. I was in the middle of my shift tonight when I got a text from Katy that said, "it's not an emergency, but call when you get a chance." I quickly seized the opportunity while we had a break at the office and called her, expecting again, always the real pessimist, for her to tell me negative news. Barely containing herself, Katy quickly told me, "I'm pregnant!" I had to ask her to repeat herself, "You are or you are not pregnant?!?!" To which she replied, "I am!" Tears quickly fell again, fortunately with all my new colleagues of my masculine based employment out of sight and I was beyond elated. She apparently had taken a digital pregnancy test that said in big bold letters: "PREGNANT" and upon calling the doctor for confirmation, he said there's no need for a blood test that the tests are pretty accurate. God answered our prayers in a way that we hoped and we give Him all glory and honor and praise. We are so unworthy, and yet He still chooses to bless us. Sadly, our faith is still lacking and we keep bracing ourselves for the news of "you're not really pregnant, it was a false alarm," or to wake up from this dream state of euphoria. What a blessing either way to feel so close to your Maker's hands. Thank you all for your prayers in this process and we'll try and keep you as updated as we can.

Love,
Rob and Katy